Bonjour, mon ami! How are you today?
I like memes and inspirational quotes to keep me going through the day. I found one today that said, "Often people who criticize your life are the same people who don't know the price you paid to get to where you are today."
That one hit me right in the gut (#Truth). Many people misread my visual cues because I have existed in predominantly white spaces my entire life; traditional spaces that condemned people like me (#Marginalized). In order to get ahead, my family, like many, made many sacrifices for me to go to a good school, get a good education, get a good job, etc. These are all the success marks of the (#Matrix), but at what cost?
At the cost of being isolated. At the cost of being ostracized, teased, mocked, and bullied. At the cost of being mind-controlled up until the age of 18, or if you go to college, up until the age of 22. At the cost of losing one's identity, history, and culture. At the cost of constantly having all the variables in my environment tell me that I'm wrong (#ImNotForYouDuh). I received all these messages at a very early age but did not have the words to describe what I was experiencing because I was naïve. These variables have made me into the person I am today.
It took me until adulthood, raising my own children to realize how powerful fear and shame are. We all make mistakes. But the culture I grew up in used fear and shame to control.
Culture is always evolving. Communication is always evolving. People are always evolving. In this process, we must learn from each other by interacting with each other. We must learn and love unconditionally. However, the pandemic has caused many people to bury in their underlayers, scared of the world, only consuming what is fed to them based on algorithms, instead of people searching for meaning in things that matter (#Presence).
Fear and shame are not bad emotions (#WhenNotAbused). Fear and shame teach us very strong lessons. We are all learning these lessons at different times in our lives, but the emotions that are there are natural and necessary (#RememberHumansAreAnimals, #Nature).
Dial into the fear and shame. Figure out why you were molded the way you were. Observe yourself objectively without any judgment or labels. Observing yourself and your past can be healing if you approach yourself with the right kind of compassion and understanding.
Once you've learned compassion for yourself, then maybe you can learn compassion for others who you don't understand. Because you know they are going through some shit too (#TheWorldDoesntRevolveAroundYou, #SocialMediaCanCauseNarcissism).
Oh, and you won't just crash into this worldly wisdom that I'm describing to you (#LifesABitch). Therefore, you'll immediately reject my advice. No worries (#TakeWhatYouNeed, #LeaveWhatYouDont). This level of wisdom will only come to you in waves, in stages, and usually, after some sort of major life event or trauma, which is basically everyone. We are (#CovidConnected). Keep your head up kid (#ThisTooShallPass)!
You are not the only one struggling. You are not the only one who will be saved by life lessons. You were meant to be here. Study the joy of living as if it were a science and enjoy your fucking life!
It is a privilege to live right now. Your trauma is not a badge, it is a stepping stone to the next level of human consciousness (#LevelUpSpirituality).