Bonjour, mon ami! How are you today?
The cousin to kindness is humbleness. Admitting that you screwed up is not only mature, but it's also freeing.
Did you say a word you didn't mean to? Apologize, acknowledge, be better next time.
Did you make an assumption about someone you didn't know and you caught yourself being prejudiced? Apologize, acknowledge, be better next time.
Did you not know something that indirectly affected someone else? Apologize, acknowledge, and think of others outside yourself (#Altruism).
Be humble always. You can be compassionate with yourself, even if others are not compassionate to you. Don't allow others to shame you for making an honest mistake. Keep trying to (#BeBetter).
It takes practice to retrain your bad habits into growth habits and to un-condition your brain. Shame may linger, but you will redeem yourself through real changed behavior (#NoShameInMyGame, #ActionsSpeakLouderThanWords).
If you're grown (+12), you are forever required to (#BeBetter, #EducateYourself). Language evolves, societies evolve, culture evolves. Educate yourself and don't accept the word of (#TheAdultsInTheRoom) at face value. Your nuclear family is only one source of information. Search for other opinions and arrive at an opinion that fits you best.
If you are humble in your journey (#LifeLongLearner), then you have nothing to be ashamed of. Growth is never anything to be ashamed of.